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Book Summary

Bernadette Fox is notorious. To her Microsoft-guru husband, she's a fearlessly opinionated partner; to fellow private-school mothers in Seattle, she's a disgrace; to design mavens, she's a revolutionary architect, and to 15-year-old Bee, she is a best friend and, simply, Mom.

Then Bernadette disappears. It began when Bee aced her report card and claimed her promised reward: a family trip to Antarctica. But Bernadette's intensifying allergy to Seattle—and people in general—has made her so agoraphobic that a virtual assistant in India now runs her most basic errands. A trip to the end of the earth is problematic.

To find her mother, Bee compiles email messages, official documents, secret correspondence—creating a compulsively readable and touching novel about misplaced genius and a mother and daughter's role in an absurd world.

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Discussion Questions

1. Where’d You Go, Bernadette is told from the point of view of a daughter trying to find her missing mother. Why do you think the author chose to tell the story from Bee’s perspective? What light does it shed on the bond between Bernadette and Bee?


2. What are your thoughts on Bernadette’s character? Has she become unhinged or has she always been a little crazy? What, if anything, do you think sent her over the edge? Have you ever had a moment in your own life that utterly changed you, or made you call into question your own sanity?


3. When Bernadette relocates from Los Angeles to Seattle, she must cope with being a transplant in a new city. Have you ever moved, or even stayed put but switched jobs, and had to adjust to an entirely different culture? What was it like?


4. The idea of going to Antarctica becomes too much for an already frazzled Bernadette to bear, but the trip itself, surprisingly, turns out to be exactly what she needs to get back on track. How do other characters in the novel experience their own breakthroughs? Which character is most transformed?


5. How are Audrey Griffin and Bernadette Fox more alike than they realize?


6. Bernadette often behaves as if she is an outsider. Do you think she is? If so, do you think her feelings of being an outsider are self-imposed, or is she truly different from the other members of her community? Do you ever feel like an outsider?


7. The book has a very playful structure. Do you think it works? Why do you think the author chose it rather than a more straightforward, traditional structure? Think about other books with unusual structures and how their formats influenced your reading experience.


8. What do you think of Bernadette and Elgie’s marriage? Is it dysfunctional?  Is there real love there? How has their marriage changed over time? Think about romantic relationships you’ve been in that have evolved, positively or negatively, and why.


9. Where’d You Go, Bernadette is, at its core, a story about a woman who disappears, both literally and figuratively. Were you able to relate to the book? How and why? Do you feel Bernadette’s disappearance was unique, or do all women, in a sense, disappear into motherhood and marriage?


(Questions issued by the publisher.)

Author and TV writer Maria Semple talks 'Where'd You Go, Bernadette', 'Arrested Development', and the 'Bernadette' movie

Where’d You Go, Bernadette, released in paperback today, tells the story of Bernadette Fox, a brilliant architect turned neurotic housewife who spends her days planning a family trip to Antarctica per her teenage daughter’s request. What results is a hilarious epistolary novel constructed almost entirely of letters and email correspondence. When Bernadette goes missing, it becomes her daughter’s sole purpose to track down her mother in this story about family, failure and bouncing back. The second novel from television writer Maria Semple, Where’d You Go, Bernadette, made a splash in the book world in 2012 and is now being made into a feature film. We caught up with Semple to talk about the book, the movie and everything in between:


In college, Semple dreamed of a novel-writing career. But when she sold a screenplay, she got a little side-tracked. And after more than a decade of television writing on shows such as Arrested Development, Mad About You and Ellen, Semple found her way to novels with This One Is Mine. However, when the book didn’t live up to her standards and she and her husband relocated to Seattle to get out of show business, Semple started to descend into a dark place, for which she blamed her surroundings.


“The book grew out of a very painful chapter in my life where I was really stuck creatively, and I was really miserable, because I was in this new city, where I not just didn’t know anyone but didn’t like them,” said Semple. “I naively thought I would quite television writing, move up to Seattle, my novel would come out, and then I’d have a novel writing career, and so I found myself really stuck in this very poisonous self pitying state and felt like I’d never write again. And I blamed Seattle for that.”


And after spending two years attempting to write what Semple described as a “commercial” novel about two sisters in Colorado, she abandoned the project completely. Just when she wanted to quit, Semple realized that her hatred of Seattle was comedic in itself.


 “In this several month period of self pity and total dispiriting feeling of failure, I was driving around and thinking about all of the different ways I didn’t like Seattle,” she said. “At some point, I reached this crisis point where I thought ‘Hey, wait a second. I have personal problems, and I’m blaming an entire city of people I’ve never met before, and there’s something that’s funny about that inherently.’ Luckily, the comedy writer in me rose up and realized that there was something funny and rare about what I was going through, and so in that moment, the character popped into my head, this Bernadette Fox character, who very much like me, was creatively stuck but blamed Seattle for her problems.”


With a new character in mind, Semple’s next step was sitting down to write. Her first draft only took four months, with her greatest obstacle being format. Semple started writing the book in first person, but capturing Bernadette proved to be a challenge. And when writing Bernadette in the third person resulted in a “flat” character, Semple had the idea that Bernadette should have an assistant. Through writing Bernadette’s emails to her assistant, Semple chose the book’s epistolary format.


Once the format was set, the characters started to come to life, starting with Bernadette. “I would say she’s a really grotesque version of me,” Semple said. “I have a slight snobby streak, but I’m not awful like she is. I don’t mind finding these ugly sides to my personality and exaggerating them, because that’s something you can write towards. I know what it’s like to feel snobby; I know what it’s like to feel anxiety; I know what it’s like to feel like busted because you’re crazy.”


But was Bernadette too crazy? Would readers be able to relate? Semple wasn’t sure. What she had feared would be a “hand grenade to myself and to my publishing career” turned out to be the main thing that kept people engaged.


“So many people relate to this Bernadette character. There seems to be this desire that people seem to have to want to share the book and say ‘Hey, you’re just as crazy as this person,’” Semple said.


Other than the character of Bernadette, Semple drew on her own life for other aspects of the story as well: Her family took a trip to Antarctica during what she called her “bad patch,” and even the over-the-top, snobby character of Audrey is based on Semple’s own personality. “Everyone thinks I’m Bernadette. I’m also totally Audrey. She’s also like me gone wild.”


Attributing her success with character to her television-writing experience, Semple stressed that she wanted to give her characters “something to play.” But that doesn’t mean that Semple will be going back to screenplays anytime soon. She even passed on the opportunity to write the screenplay for her own book when Where’d You Go, Bernadette was bought by Annapurna Pictures just a “week or so after the book came out,” she said. Currently being written by Michael Weber and Scott Neustadter (500 Days of Summer), Semple said she’s “at peace with the movie being different from the book.” Putting her trust in her team, which includes producer Nina Jacobson, Semple views the book and the film as two separate projects.


“The book, that’s my little complete baby. I feel really comfortable with the novel and how the novel turned out, and I’ll always have that. So I feel like nothing that happens is going to touch that. I will be the first one in line to see the movie or to read the script, just because I’m very optimistic and very curious about it.”


So does that mean that Semple won’t be involved in the new season of Arrested Development? Living in Seattle would make that difficult, so Semple is, instead, focusing on her paperback tour and looking forward to watching the show as nothing more than a fan. ”To me, just to watch Jason Bateman interacting with all these people again, that’s all I really care about is just to see them all in the scene with each other with that energy and the timing and the whole thing,” she said.


Not currently working on a new novel, Semple said she doesn’t intend to write until a new idea really strikes her. “I think a novel has to be about where you are at a given moment in time. I think it really needs to represent some specific pain you’re going through. it’s not just a story,” Semple explained. And if a new idea doesn’t hit her? “I’ll have to open a restaurant or something.”


“Author and TV Writer Maria Semple Talks ‘Where’d You Go, Bernadette,’ ‘Arrested Development,’ and the ‘Bernadette’ movie.” Entertainment Weekly. http:// (accessed January 28, 2014).